Winning to some is about the transaction. It’s about being right. It’s about the mic drop. The sound byte. The power play. (more…)
I was at the WITI Conference (Women in Technology Summit) earlier this week and I appreciated the emphasis on being proactive about identifying and reaching out to potential mentors. I also really liked the callout at a conference sponsored by a women’s professional association that mentors can be men and women. As I look at my mentor roster history (mom, dad, sister, boss, peer, boss, boss, CEO, team member, peer) half of them have been men. And I’m grateful for that, because it’s important to be able to leverage your mentors as sounding boards to obtain alternative perspectives. Whether we like it or not, gender probably influences your perspective – and that nuance counts when you’re looking for feedback. (more…)
I’ve been thinking about writing this letter for the better part of the last decade, but honestly never got around to it. So there I was, driving to work this morning and finding myself committing to putting my thoughts down for you today.
I know that you know the road to winning the presidential seat is not going to be an easy one, and I also know that you know that you will be faced with more criticism than you will know what to do with. So in light of that, I thought maybe you could use a little bit of a pep talk – so I could thank you for all the pep talks you’ve given me along my journey. (more…)
This time last year, perhaps you put your introspective hat on and created some New Year Resolutions for yourself. Wanted to finally run that marathon? On the list. Wanted to juice cleanse your way to inner peace? That made it too.
I am nine weeks back to work after taking four months for maternity leave, and I thought I would share my perspective on the elusive notion of women successfully “having it all” – a challenging career, kids, balanced family life, healthy social life, personal hobbies, and the like – while it’s fresh on my mind.
Before I was pregnant, I easily worked 70-80 hours a week, attended happy hours once in a while, and averaged 4-5 hours of sleep a night. Surprisingly, I was able to be relatively high functioning on such little sleep. Luckily (or some would say not so luckily), my husband kept the same hours so our lives were fairly in sync. Once I found out I was pregnant, I immediately convinced myself that “nothing would change” – I would be able to contribute just as much, or more, to every aspect of my life. Nothing would change.
This was the source of my greatest error – I mistook “contribution” for “time commitment”, and those are two very different things. In fact, everything changed, and I should have embraced it and rebalanced. Instead, I continued on with the same old strategy… keep adding to the boiling pot and never expect it to overflow. Needless to say, I made it through alive, but admittedly I should have taken more of an opportunity to enjoy this very special experience.
The past two months back at work have been about me learning very quickly how to aggressively prioritize my time, energy, and resources. I can no longer compensate for the lack of hours in the day by making it up overnight – every hour of the day is accounted for, and those few hours I have to spend with my son are the most important.
I know several women who have recently reentered the workforce, and we all made the same mistake. We assumed that we would be able to step right back in and contribute at the same level as we previously did. I’m here to challenge that assumption and question whether it was ever appropriate to be contributing at that level in the first place. For some, the answer is yes. For others, no. For me, that wasn’t having it all. It was one or more of four things:
- Having a career and nothing else
- Being ineffective at delegating
- Not knowing when is appropriate to say no
- Having difficulty identifying and focusing on the most critical strategic priorities and driving for results there
Today, “having it all” has taken on new meaning for me. For all you working moms out there who are trying to Super Mom your way through life, what “having it all” means to you will likely be a little different. I’m here to tell you that it’s probably not what you originally thought it was. In fact, it’s probably much better.
I’m experiencing something interesting working with the full spectrum of Gen Y, Gen X, Boomers, and Millenials all mushed up into a thing called work. It seems that with each new generation entering the workforce, the expectations of how fast things have to happen gets faster.